Have you lost yourself in an emotionally unavailable or toxic relationship?
Are you sick and tired of walking on eggshells and putting up with the roller-coaster of other people’s moods?
Do you lie awake at 4am replaying what you’ve said and done and promising yourself tomorrow will be different.
But nothing ever changes and you feel trapped in a warped version of Groundhog Day?
If so, you’re not alone.
If you’re like most women, you’re great at keeping up appearances.
Armed with a good mascara and your best game face, you can fool all of the people most of the time.
But you can’t fool you.
You know deep down things have to change. Because you feel trapped.
And when you feel trapped you seek escape routes through wine, worry or other people’s problems.
But you’re tired.
You’re tired of plate spinning, hoop jumping and walking on those damn eggshells.
Some days no amount of good makeup can fake it because it’s just too hard.
You’ve put your own needs aside to be there for others, only to be used, abused and slandered.
And you’re sick of it.
You want your life back.
Hell, you want you back!
But you don’t know how.
I can help.
For the last 25 years as a therapist and coach, I’ve helped women reclaim their lives from worry, wine and emotionally unavailable and toxic relationships.
As a woman who used to drink, think and love too much, I know a thing or two about what makes women tick and how to help them recover.
Often, as children, we experienced loss, abuse, neglect or feeling like the odd one out.
We were conditioned to believe we were unworthy and not good enough which led us to rescue, fix and give too much to losers, takers and future fakers in toxic relationships
Or waste years of our lives with emotionally distant and unavailable people who blow hot and cold and keep us in a state of confusion and uncertainty.
We feel powerless.
And we seek escape routes by eating, drinking, over-thinking and fixing other people’s problems.
No wonder we feel crazy!
When we try to be all things to all people we lose the essence of who we really are.
We live in a state of constant anxiety trying to plan and predict how others react.
We seek distractions through food, wine or facebook to numb out.
Until we become trapped in the fog of worry, drinking and hangovers and beating ourselves up.
But seriously, life doesn’t have to be this way.
You can break free from of toxic love or wine and change the direction of your life.
You are not powerless.
You have, inside of you, an infinite amount of strength and resourcefulness.
When you learn to know, love, trust, protect and care for yourself, you will reclaim your self-respect and self-reliance.
You will learn how to detox from childhood brainwashing that led to your ‘not enoughness’
Armed with a new set of healthy beliefs and behaviour, you can set boundaries, speak up for yourself and stop letting people treat you like an option.
You will become more confident and make decisions which are right for you and your life.
You can decide whether to stay or go.
Ditch the wine for good or take a break.
Stop pleasing others and start pleasing yourself.
And more than anything…
You’ll start to get yourself back.
C’mon, let’s do this.
Jacqueline Groves is a counsellor helping women reclaim their lives from emotional abuse from toxic relationships in love, family and work.